Offense

Offense is a nasty thing at times.  I don't think its wrong to be offended or to feel aggravated by things, but its the way we react to it that is usually the killer. 

We live in a world where if someone offends you you go off and rant and rave to someone else about things, and in some way someone gets hurt, may not be the person who offended but often times others that we talk to, they get the wrong idea and become judgmental.  We all deal with this, offense is a common occurance in life. 

We live in a world where we all want to take the easy way, we don't want to do things that are hard and could hurt us.

The clear way to handle offense it to take it back to the person and say hey this bothered me and I feel you should know it.  Some people do handle it that way, and that is awesome.  Let me be the first to say taking my offense to someone is one of the hardest things for me to do.  I personally would rather do the whole get offended and rant to a close friend or husband about it.  This is an area I am working hard in because over the last year I have seen how offense not handled correctly and hurt so many, and it can continue on for a long time and spread out over people and just cause a mess.

I have recently had a situation that came up in our lives, that has been a case of us offending someone else and then we find out about it from someone else, (if you are a friend who is reading this it probably is not you so don't worry about it.)  Anyway this situation has the ability to hurt three people, The person offended, a mutual friend and us.  It would be very easy for me to be offended and get my panties in a wad.  This is where I find God prodding and saying stop the pattern now.  And this is also why I have really determined that if offenses come up in the future I will not be a talker I will take it to that person and deal with it so that I will not cause lots of hurt.

I am not posting this because I am angry, I am just getting my thoughts out, I am fine with this situation, I give it to God and believe that He will correct things the way they are supposed to be.  I just think this topic is very interesting and have seen it go towards an ill direction a lot in life lately.

I am curious and anxious to see what God is doing in the lives around us as well as ours,  He is doing great things and even though sometimes its painful I am glad God is changing me and bringing the bad things out of me.  I am chasing the pain instead of running away for once.  And it is good.